The perks of being disabled.

Because sometimes being an outsider it's not an option.

  • 23rd July
    2014
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  • 22nd July
    2014
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The shoe issue or "Steve Madden must die" (not really).

sylvtaylor:

theperksofbeingdisabled:

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Since I was a kid, buying shoes has been a total torture. The orthosis made me need a different size for each foot, the insoles didn’t fit, the other weird device was too big… Besides that, I didn’t want the attendant to stare at my legs and unpretty feet.
I loved watching my mother walking…

If you can wear kitten heels (one-two inch heels, I find that height tends to keep my foot in the best position without orthopedic inserts— I wear sky-high ones now because I can’t walk), Irregular Choice (I don’t work for them but they are one of my favorite brands) has a few that are as pretty as high heels, imo (and they tend to run slightly wide):

They’re not the spikes and leather variety, but Hades does some low heels like that, and so does New Rock (more cowboy shooties but they’re really nice).

That particular kind of heel makes my ankles twist, but they may work for other girls. Thanks!

  • 22nd July
    2014
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  • 21st July
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  • 21st July
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  • 21st July
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winglssdemon:

Terrific gems from my shitty coworker. I should never have mentioned not to stay away from my legs because they might spasm and hit her in the head. In hindsight, it could have been kind of awesome.

Bad coworker: So you’re not paralyzed?

Bad coworker: So it’s a neuron thing?

Bad coworker: Isn’t there something you could do?

Bad coworker: Well at least you’re not paralyzed!

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  • 20th July
    2014
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SHOW YOUR MOVES! Against disability self-conciousness

Because of this video of “Walking with Cerebral Palsy”, emmy-award had the great idea of recording herself showing us how she walks. Let’s do the same! The purpose is to fight the self-conciousness that comes with confronting our differently walking/moving.

This are the rules:

Take a video of yourself showing us how you walk/roll/move with your particular physical disability.

1. Say your name and your disability.

2. Show us your walking/rolling/moving in a few seconds.

3. Submit me the link or tag me for me to reblog you, please.

We are not so few. We are not so different. WE ARE NOT ALONE.
  • 20th July
    2014
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emmy-award:

That video I reblogged kinda made me wanna show you guys what I look like when I walk. You can’t really see everything since I filmed it while my phone was plugged into my stereo dock, but you get the idea.

Foo Fighters fan? YEAH GIRL!

  • 20th July
    2014
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  • 20th July
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Self-Conscious thoughts.

violetfixation:

theperksofbeingdisabled:

Because of my CP, I’ve had a hard time finding myself femenine and sensual. I’ve always thought about myself “Ok, Lorena. You may not be the pretty girl in the class, but you can be the smart one!”. It never occurred to me that I could be pretty AND smart at the same time. For me, both properties…

I feel the same way. I was just thinking this today. One of the conditions I have combined with ANOTHER condition I have making me inactive for a period of time caused me to gain a significant amount of weight. I don’t always feel like exercising or washing my hair or going to parties, and I feel like boys dont like me because of that. It’s hard to remember but you know if people don’t like you because of a fundamental thing about you that you can never change, then let them go. They’re not good enough for people as beautiful as you and me, inside and out.

Thank you for writing this post so I know I’m not alone in this.

P.S. I’ll raise you never having a boyfriend and say that I’ve never even been kissed. Sigh.

theperksofbeingdisabled

Thank you for sharing this with me violetfixation :) I really appreciate it. I’ve always thought about my disability as a filter: it lets only the kind hearted and non superficial people pass through to get around me. It grants me that those who are next to me stay because of ME and not my looks or anything else. P.S. You will skip kissing many toads on your way to the coveted “prince charming” ;) (if there’s such a thing).

  • 20th July
    2014
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  • 19th July
    2014
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  • 19th July
    2014
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I get you on the "oh wow, you're such an inspiration and you're just like sitting there being pointed out for your disability like 'no I'm human.' :) It's like when people say 'it's like the blind leading the blind.' When you happen to be helping another disabled person... Cause you happen to be a nice person. Sorry if I make no sense haha :)

Asked by: afandomslifeforme

It definitely makes sense ;) I guess there are things to recognize to a disabled person, like nailing something in a way not just “ok” but BADASS knowing he/she had to put a double or triple effort on it (or just because it’s badass, apart from the effort).

But making a huge deal about someone who’s laying there breathing and farting as everyone does just because he/she has a wheelchair? It’s a breather and farter complimenting another breather and farter just for breathing and farting.

  • 19th July
    2014
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Disability + Side effects.

Abled people just don’t understand how bad their applauses make me feel. Last week I tried to explain to my mom this thing about the reverse effect the inspiration porn attitudes get on disabled people —I mean, instead of encouraging, they’re really crappy— and I couldn’t make her understand, because even she feels proud that I inspire other people to be more caring and sensitive about the suffering of others, but the truth is that I don’t wanna inspire people to pray (yes, i’ve been there too and it’s totally awkward) or care or be more conscious about how lucky they are for being abled —or just not being me—. I just wanna be a random girl who’s recognized for real achievements and not for “participating and not wining” at sports or bringing people to tears for opening a mayo jar. It’s not my mission or intention to inspire, but I guess it’s a side effect I can’t avoid.

  • 19th July
    2014
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